I have had cats and dogs at different times in my life. Like all cats, mine pretended that they were independent animals, but every so often you would see their true colors. For instance, they really don’t want you to be far away or ignore them. That is why they are always in the middle of anything you are doing. They just like it on their terms.
You Are Mine
When my sister-in-law and father-in-law were looking for a cat to adopt, they visited the local Humane Society. Many of the cats ignored them or were happy with them for a few minutes and then wandered away. Some of them clearly stated that they weren’t the right cat for them. However, there was one kitten that took up residence on my father-in-law’s lap and would not move. You could say that the kitten chose to adopt my father-in-law. She was making sure that no matter what, he wasn’t leaving the shelter without her. She had already created a bond with him before they got home.
Unlike cats, dogs have no restraint in showing their attachment to humans. In many cases, they are excited to meet any and all new people. However, they do bond strongest to particular people.
Our dog Jaz is strongly bonded to my wife. When my wife leaves the house, our dog likes to lie by the front door or sit by the front window until she returns, which can be a challenge if she is gone for an extended period. Whether my wife is gone 10 minutes or 10 days, upon her return she is greeted by a very excited dog that demands immediate attention. My wife even has a furry little follower when she goes upstairs. The bond between them is obvious.
Jaz likes other family, friends, and clients. In her world, each person has a specific role or connection to her. For instance, she loves walks and any time I try to put my shoes on, she begins hovering over my feet. She is sure that means I will take her for a walk.
Similarly, she thinks clients are for petting her. Therefore, when we are getting ready for a client she begins watching at the front window in anticipation of their arrival. She is sad when the client meeting is via video because she doesn’t get the same interaction that she gets when they meet in person.
Pets and their humans have both physical and emotional connections. When people lose a pet, they go through grieving just like they would if they lost a family member. When a pet loses their human they also grieve. For example, when we lost my mother-in-law, the family’s dog would lay down and put his chin on the floor. You could see the sadness in his face. Somehow the dog knew my mother-in-law would not be returning home.
For some people, their connection to their pet is their strongest and maybe only connection they have with a living being. I’ve witness a few homeless people with their dogs. For these people, their relationship with their pet can be life saving. As their pets give them a reason to live.
Pets connect to people in ways that other people cannot. They are always there for us and there is no question about their devotion. They bring unconditional love into our lives and that is something very precious!