Have you ever complained to your best friend, sister, brother, spouse, or parent about something going on in your life? It is human nature and I doubt that there is an adult alive that hasn’t complained in some form.
Although complaining may help you feel better momentarily, it does nothing to resolve the issue. It simply keeps the issue alive through dialog. To actually, resolve the issue and truly feel better, you have to take steps to find a solution. Working on a solution does not include complaining, telling the other person/situation to fix themselves, nor does it include creating a major disturbance to get attention. It means taking actual steps to resolve the issue.
If you want a solution to an issue in your life – a better relationship with your spouse, to be treated better in the workplace, or to create a better world for your children – take action. You may not pick the right thing to do and you may find yourself changing course in the future. Still, take an actual step toward making a difference.
If you want a better relationship with your spouse, treat him or her better. Set up date nights. Decide to do something special that you both will enjoy. Or, better yet, invite your spouse to work with you to come up with ideas that the two of you would enjoy.
Making It Happen
If you want to make a difference in the world, be like Scott Pressler, who organized a cleanup in Baltimore after hearing about the issue in the press. Thousands, maybe millions, of people heard about the issue. However, Scott took action. In a few days, he mobilized people, got donations, and the group cleaned up 12 tons of trash in one day. Now, he is getting people excited about cleaning up other cities around the country.
Leading By Example
You don’t have to mobilize large groups of people to make a difference. For instance, you can make a difference simply by leading by example. For example, if you strongly believe that people need to change the way they live to protect the climate, change your life style to be aligned with your beliefs. Become the person that everyone looks to as an example of green living. Make sure you also research products and their alternatives to ensure you make the best overall decisions for the planet. Allow others to see what you are doing and then prepare to advise them if they would like to follow your lead.
Likewise, if you want better education in schools, become a school volunteer. Learn about the rules and constraints the educators face. Find a way to use your particular skills to help the situation. You may not be able to do it alone. Still, take action to make a difference.
Find What Is Important To You
You don’t have to take action on every thing that you want changed, but you should attempt to make a difference on those things that are most important to you. If you believe an issue is really important, but you aren’t willing to try to find a solution, likely deep in your heart you don’t believe it is an issue. Alternately, you may be gaining something by keeping things the way they are. In this case, you are allowing the problem to continue and you effectively become part of the problem.
If you find yourself in this kind of situation, you need to ask yourself what you are getting from keeping things status quo. Perhaps you get attention from friends and family for having to deal with the problem, perhaps it feeds your ego in some way, or it gives you an excuse for not moving forward with your life. If you believe you are getting nothing out of keeping the problem in place, ask yourself what is keeping you from working on the problem? Answering this question is key in improving your life.
Be A Part Of The Solution
You can complain all day and nothing will change. You can tell others to change and nothing will change. The only way to create change is to take action to resolve the problem. And, if for some reason the problem cannot be resolved, you will have the satisfaction of knowing that you took action to make a difference.
It is easy to be part of the problem, but it is so much more rewarding to be part of the solution.