So often people talk of change without really thinking about the effort they must make to create change. In many cases, the change they desire is simply wishful thinking. The person wants a job that pays more, a new relationship, to travel, or to spend more time with family. However, they simply want them without being willing to make an effort to bring those things into their lives.

 

In many cases, these goals are achievable. However, they will not magically happen without focus and effort.

 

Making Space

 

Generally, if you want to add or change something to your life, you have to have room for that person, activity, etc. It is very much like a shelf. If you have a shelf that is completely packed with items, you can’t add another item to the shelf without removing something. The same is true with life in general.

 

Making space can relate to making physical space, but it can also include making time, being emotionally open, and having a willingness to accept new ideas.

 

What Is Serving You

 

The first thing to do is to survey your life and determine which objects, activities, etc. are still serving you and which are not. For example, if you want a new relationship, you may want to survey your home for items related to an ex. It is also important to ensure that you have mental and emotional space for a new relationship. Ask yourself, “What am I holding onto that relates to my ex?” Follow it with the simple question, “Why am I holding onto it?”

 

Likewise, if you want to pursue a hobby, but don’t ever seem to have the time, look at where you are spending your time. Clearly, there are some things that have to be done, but many things are not required. Do you really need to be on the PTA? Can you get someone to assist with the family reunion? Do you really need to watch so much TV? All these questions help you identify what is important to you. If the ways you are spending your time are all more important to you than the hobby you desire, you need to realize that it is your choice to do those things instead of the hobby.

 

Removing Unneeded Connections

 

Once you have identified those things that need change in order for you to change, it is important to remove or alter the connection with those items. For instance, if you have a chair that your ex bought, you might simply decide to sell or donate the chair to remove the energy of your ex. However, you may love that chair and need it for seating. In this case, it may be more practical to do an energy clearing or to transform the chair in some way. Painting, reupholstering, or even moving the chair may help in changing the energy of the chair.

 

The most important thing, however, is to ensure that you view the chair differently. If you still think of your ex every time you sit in it, you have not yet removed the connection to your ex. It is important to release your ex and begin seeing the chair as simply your chair.

 

Likewise, you need to make room emotionally for a new person. If you are always thinking about how things were with your ex, there will be no room for anyone new. An excellent way to achieve the release of old emotions is to recognize what positive your gained from the relationship, whether the relationship was good or bad. Show gratitude for those positive things and then simply release the person. There are several ways this can be achieved and you may even have your own ritual that you would like to use to release old, unneeded emotions.

 

Building New Connections

 

Once you ensure that you have room in your life for that which you desire, it is important to start building connections toward your desired outcome. In the case of relationships, this can include taking action to go out and meet people, joining an on-line dating service, or making sure that you are in the best shape you can be. All these things start to build connections toward supporting a new relationship.

 

In the case of a new job, you might simply update your resume, start scanning the internet for job openings, and start talking to friends about your desire for a new job. These actions send messages out to the Universe allowing the Universe to assist in creating the ultimate connection that you desire.

 

If you are truly committed to change and you follow these steps, you may be surprised at what will change in your life!

 

If you need assistance making space in your life for change, contact us. We offer several services that assist with this process.

 

Releasing: A Key to Healing

 

 

Most people have an event from their past that clings to them like a baby clings to their pacifier. Like a parent who thinks their baby is ready to give up their pacifier, the person may think they are ready to give up the memory. And, no matter how hard the parent tries, the baby resists giving up their pacifier. Similarly no matter how hard the person tries to forget, the memory won’t leave. It seems to be permanently etched into their brain.

 

Even when someone is not consciously recalling the memory, that instance of memory can consume some of the person’s energy like a dripping faucet leaks water. Although one instance of memory may not be a significant drain on a person, if there are lots of memories connected to the person, the person may experience a significant drain. In some cases, one single instance can be enough to be a continual drain on a person.

 

Staying Connected

 

Energetically speaking, people may hold onto events, places, and people. Think of the old time switch boards where there was a person making a voice connection by plugging a line into a socket. This created a physical connection that allowed a person on one end to speak to the person on the other end. Energy works in a very similar manner. In the switchboard era, you could hang up and come back an hour later and begin talking if the switchboard operator had left the connection in place.

 

The same is true if the universe has not severed the energetic connection. When that connection remains, the other person, company, or event continues to be connected to the person.  This is true even if they are no longer a part of that person’s life. Unfortunately, trauma is often the cord that binds the two together. The more trauma someone has experienced, the more likely there will be a strong energetic connection they will have to the place, event, or person.

 

What stays connected to someone may seem completely random and insignificant to other people. In fact, others that witnessed an event that someone found traumatic may not even be able to recall the event. To the traumatized person, however, the reason they can recall these events, places, and people so vividly is because of the trauma they experienced.

 

No Longer Needed

 

These events, places, and people created an energetic connection. When these connections no longer serve the person in a positive manner, the person needs to decide if they are ready to release the connection. This doesn’t mean that they will forget the people or events. However, it does mean that these people and events of the past will no longer have influence over their lives.

 

The connection can be released in a variety of ways. Some people opt for counseling while others do journaling, meditation, or energy work. The act of releasing heals old wounds and allows you to thrive.

 

Once released, the person may feel more energized. They may physically feel like a weight is lifted from them. New opportunities may also arise once they are no longer being held back by these connections.

 

What are you waiting for? Release! It is the key to healing.

 

Energetic Connection

 

 

Have you ever had a place, food, service, or professional recommended to you by someone you trust only to find that you don’t feel the same way? It has probably happened to most everyone. But, why?

 

Does It Resonate?

 

A business, house, church, or restaurant can be highly recommended and yet it just doesn’t seem to resonate with you. In the case of a restaurant, the food is good and the atmosphere is fine, but it just doesn’t feel quite right. For a church, the people can be nice and the beliefs aligned with your own. Yet, it too doesn’t feel right. The same can be said of almost anything or any one.

 

With relationships, your friend can introduce you to someone who seems perfect for you. That person seems to have all the attributes that you are looking for in a relationship. Still, there isn’t a spark and you may not even get along at all.

 

Energetic Connection

 

The reason for these reactions is that you do not connect with these places and people. It goes far beyond the logic that says that you should like these places. Instead, it falls into the category of an energetic connection.

 

Two people, places or things can have positive energy and seem to have much in common. However, the energy of the two is incompatible and they don’t resonate with each other. This does not mean that there is anything negative about either one. They simply aren’t an energetic match for each other.

 

Your Energy Knows

 

Thus, it is important to tap into your energetic sensors that give you that feeling of this is a match or not. If you simply rely on facts and logic, you will spend lots of time figuring out what your energy already knows.

 

Interestingly, if you tap into that energy, you will see the facts differently. Facts that might be interpreted as major roadblocks for something that is wrong for you will be dismissed or seen as minor bumps if it is energetically right for you. It is important to distinguish viewing facts with an energetic perspective from taking the facts and trying to make them fit because you want them to fit. These are two very different things.

 

Tap into your energy today and decisions will become obvious!

 

 

intuition told me he was guilty

 

 

 

One day I was called for jury duty. On this particular day, I was one of the “lucky” ones that had to show up to see if we would be selected to serve on a case. After I arrived, the staff gave a group of us questionnaires. One quick look at the questions and it was clear that the case was related to sexual assault.

 

We answered the questions and waited. Some people were dismissed. I am not sure what was cause for dismissal because I know that the group that remained included people who had been sexually assaulted and people who had good friends or family that had been sexually assaulted. The issue I believe is that almost everyone knew someone who had been through this horrific crime.

 

Instant Reaction

 

They ushered those of us in the jury pool into the courtroom. As soon as they brought the defendant in, tears began streaming down my face. It was automatic and completely outside my control. He was clear across the room from me and was a man whose looks would not have raised an eyebrow – clean-shaven, suit, etc. However, the feeling of guilt permeated the entire room.

 

When they said that the charge was “sexual assault on a child by a person in a position of trust,” the feeling became even stronger. I was sure that he was guilty of everything he was accused of doing and more.

 

The Interview

 

Fortunately, anyone that even knew someone who had been sexually assaulted was interviewed in private. Now, I was only three feet or so from the defendant and I really wanted to leave. The lawyers on the other hand really wanted me on the jury. They asked me about being a manager and about being logical. In any other situation, I would have said, “Absolutely, I can listen to the facts and make a decision.” However, this case was different. It was hard to make those statements.

 

Tears kept coming throughout the questioning. Finally, a lawyer asked if I was going to be like that throughout the trial. I simply said, “I don’t know.” With that, I was dismissed.

 

I sat in my car for several minutes to compose myself enough to drive. Over the next several days, I found myself crying on and off. It took quite some time to get over being in the same space with that man. I can’t imagine how difficult it would have been to sit through the trial.

 

No Doubt

 

I do not know the outcome of the trial. But, I am sure beyond a shadow of a doubt that he was guilty. I had connected to energy that was so strong that it didn’t just give me a feeling of discomfort in my gut as a warning, but shook me to my core. The knowing and gut feel are common for me. However, I am not usually overly emotional. I was feeling a little of his victims’ pain (they never said that there were multiple, but I was sure that this was a pattern of behavior).

 

This occurred many years ago, but I remember it like it was yesterday. I hope to never experience anything like that again. However, I know that if I should encounter a situation like that again that I could use the many energetic tools I have added to my energetic tool bag over the years to help lessen the impact.

 

Don’t forget to listen to your gut feel! And, when you get that feeling, use protective energetic boundaries to keep it under control!

 

meaningful relationships

 

 

Ever feel like you are living a song? I have been hearing Journey’s Don’t Stop Believin’ frequently the last few years. When I began to notice the song, I assumed that my connection to the song was through the song title. I believed that I kept hearing this song as a way to encourage me down the path I’ve been traveling since leaving the corporate world.

 

Assumptions

 

Recently my wife questioned my assumption. She asked if the connection could be with the lyrics or meaning of the song. So, I looked at the lyrics and was surprised to find some interesting correlations with my life.

 

I’m just a city boy, born and raised in Omaha. I’m married to a small town girl. A couple years ago, we rode a midday train going anywhere (actually Georgetown, CO). We’re feeling like we’re living in a lonely world with everyone attached to their electronic devices and ignoring personal contact. And the associations go on, and on, and on. Okay, I’m sure you are now looking on the Internet for the lyrics. And, yes, I took liberties.

 

The point of this song is that we are all looking for meaningful relationships. This song suggests that the purpose in life is trying to fill an emotional void through personal connections. Sometimes we will find someone to fill that void and other times we continue with the search, going through relationship after relationship. This song encourages us to hold on to the feeling of hope that we will find the relationship that we seek.

 

Deeper Meaning

 

If I look beyond the song title, I think there is a deeper meaning for me. I interpret the search for meaningful relationships to be analogous to seeking out people I can help improve their lives. Some of these people are looking for their own meaningful relationships. Meanwhile, others are looking for ways to identify how to improve their lives.

 

On the flip side, some of those people are consciously or unconsciously seeking my assistance. When I am able to help them achieve improved clarity in their life or relief from ailments, I feel emotionally fulfilled. As such, the song both encourages me to continue and reminds me of the benefits of making such a connection.

 

The work I do is one way to help others. We all, however, have the ability to positively affect the lives of others. Sometimes it only takes a smile to establish a connection with someone. From there you never know where it may lead. Who knows, maybe there’s a meaningful relationship just waiting to begin with your next smile.

 

 

 

 

In our previous article “Throw-Away Society,” we discussed the ramifications to a person’s energy when one-time use items and other items are constantly discarded. This article looks at the flip side of that issue.  It explores when  identifying and taking action when items no longer serve you.

 

Not everything you have – even the really nice things or the things that have been passed down through the generations – serve you. These items can bring forward wonderful energy of family. You may have spent $1000 to purchase other items.  However, neither of these scenarios mean that the item is right for you now.

 

Check The Energy

 

It is important to go through your home from time to time and check the energy of the home. Check all aspects of the home to determine what no longer serves you, what is missing, what needs to be moved, etc. Key things to consider about items in your home are whether it brings you joy or provides a necessary function.

 

 An oven, bed, and dishes all provide a function for you. However, it still could be time to get rid of them if there is some negative emotions attached to the item. For instance, if every time you look at the dishes you think of your ex because he bought them for you when you were vacationing in Hawaii, it is probably time for them to go.

 

Extra Stuff

 

Other items may simply be taking up space in your home. Even items that came from family may no longer be the right things for you. A great example is a vase that I have. It came from my grandmother and is quite unusual. I really like it. However, if it were ever to be in my younger son’s home, I wouldn’t expect it to last long because he finds the vase “creepy.” So, despite the fact that it has been in the family for a number of years, it would be unhealthy for him to hang onto it.

 

Some items just need to be moved or thinned out.   The energy can change a lot by moving items from one location to another. Also, sometimes less is more. Instead of the collection of 60 shot glasses, a collection of 30 of the most interesting ones might better serve you. Remember that just because you have it doesn’t mean that you have to keep it forever.

 

Other things to consider are: kids projects, materials for crafts you no longer do, one of the six casserole dishes that are in your cabinet, and the tea set that you never use. If these items are just there, they are energetic and physical clutter.

 

Continual Process

 

It is a continual process and requires balance. Buying or picking up something free and turning around and getting rid of it is no better energetically than holding onto something that does not serve you. As you get rid of items, remember that you aren’t required to refill every inch of the space. Consider moving other items around to balance the energy.

Remember everything is energy. Each item brings energy when it comes into your space and takes energy when it leaves your space. Good choices make your energy and your space whole.

 

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After a recent death in the family, I helped the family clean the house.   As is true in many cases of an unexpected death, time was limited as family members were in town for only a few days.

 

Tossing Things

 

Although time was of the essence, it was difficult to see so many things going into the dumpster. New packages of things that could be used by someone landed in a trash bag. Still, many items discarded were things that couldn’t be sold or donated. So, I took a deep breath as we tossed them in the trash.

 

When it came to small appliances, dishes, and other household items, I volunteered to take them to a donation center so that they wouldn’t simply be thrown away.  I even salvaged a few items as they were going into the trash because I knew they were valuable or usable by others.

 

This experience was a great reminder of the throw-away society that we have become. I cannot imagine the average person 100 years ago throwing away anything usable. Of course, they had less actual things in their homes and had lots of children to divide things between.

 

Picking Up Energy

 

Given that things we have in our homes and touch with our hands pick up our energy, I started wondering what a throw-away society meant to the world energetically. In the days of old, household objects were used until no longer usable. In many cases,  items were passed down from generation to generation. This brought forth the energy of the family to new generations.

 

These items were durable and lasted for years and years. In contrast, many things today are designed only to last for a single use. Even things designed to last longer are rarely designed to last even the entire lifetime of one person. Instead, each of these items are discarded when people are done with them, which can simply mean that they have grown tired of the item or used it a time or two.

 

Losing Energy

 

If we consider that each item picks up a bit of our energy, we must assume that a part of our energy is lost each time an item is discarded. So, instead of our homes being full of the energy of our family and our ancestors as in the past, we now have pockets of emptiness.

 

The solution is simple. Use less one-time use items. Keep select items from our family (you don’t have to keep everything). Lastly,  carefully purchase items with the idea that we will keep them for a long time. By making these changes our homes will have a wealth of energy and the gaps will be fewer. This strength of energy is important in order to fully connect our energy to the world!

 

Coming soon: Part II – “When It No Longer Serves You”