the choice is yours

I don’t believe for a moment that six months ago any of you were just hoping that a virus would spread around the world creating a pandemic. Yet, here we are. You can respond with calmness and kindness or anger and fear – the choice is yours to make.

 

Beyond Our Control

 

Although our current world situation may be one of the most significant events of our lifetime, many things happen during our lifetime where we have little or no control over the event. If you think back over the years, you can probably identify countless times you encountered things in life where you didn’t control what was happening.

 

A simple example of events we can’t control is traffic. Perhaps you checked traffic before you left for a meeting and the maps showed “green” along your path. After you venture out, an accident occurs ahead of you on the highway and suddenly all the traffic stops. Now, you are in a situation where you are likely going to be late for your meeting. Still, you have a choice in how you react.

 

Within Our Control

 

In this situation, you can choose to calmly wait while trying to move to the right lane so that you can exit the highway. Then when in a safe location you can find another route and alert the party you are meeting that you will be late due to traffic. On the other hand, you can choose to get angry, yell at other drivers, honk, and attempt to move ahead. The first case is a rational response and gets you to your meeting with less stress. The second reaction only adds more stress.

 

Initial Reaction

 

Sometimes something happens so quickly and catches us in a vulnerable state. In these cases, most people simply react with emotion as they attempt to process the situation. However, after the initial reaction, they still have the opportunity to step back and respond to the situation in a calm manner.

 

The amount of time between the initial reaction and a more calm response normally ranges from a few second to days depending on the severity of the situation. For instance, if you learn that you didn’t get the promotion that you were sure was coming your way, it would be natural if you were upset, angry, or frustrated. However, if you are still angry about the loss of the promotion a year later, you are choosing to continue your reaction.

 

Choice

 

In this example, once you get over the initial shock of the thing that has disrupted your life or your plans, you get to choose your next steps. You can choose to be angry for an eternity or you can take actions that may help you in getting a promotion the next time.

 

Again, the latter results in less stress and getting you where you want to be while continuing to react keeps you stuck.

 

Action

 

Sometimes yelling at someone and expressing your emotion will get you what you want in life. However, that is generally not the case. And, it always comes with additional stress and drain on your mental and physical health. Remember . . . the choice is yours!

 

If you or someone you know struggles with long-term emotional reactions, life coaching or other energy work may assist in you in responding in a more productive manner.

 

 

focus your energy on what is most important

Life is busy and it may have been some time since you have asked yourself where you regularly focus your energy. Perhaps, this is a question that you have never asked yourself. Still, it is a very important question, especially in light of the current world situation.

 

The World Situation

 

You may be focused solely on getting through the coming weeks as we live through the most significant pandemic of our lifetimes. It is natural to flip into survival mode when your way of life is threatened.

 

It is normal to be concerned about health, loved ones, jobs, finances, food, and even toilet paper. However, there has to be prioritization and the appropriate level of concern. Toilet paper is not nearly as important as having a roof over your head and being healthy. It is definitely not something that requires you to buy every package you can find.

 

Maintaining Balance

 

Balance is critical. It will be much easier to take a balanced approach to life if you limit your focus on COVID-19 information. It is important to stay up to date on the government rules, but too much news is not healthy.

 

If you find yourself listening to lots of news commentary or you are constantly checking the coronavirus numbers (and you aren’t a government or medical statistician), you may be focusing too much on the current situation.

 

It is especially unhealthy to listen to the “political” views of the situation, which are not meant to inform anyone of facts, but are intended to stir your emotions and influence your political opinions. Anger and negativity are the last things you need in your life right now, as love and calmness are the feelings that lead us through the situation.

 

If you feel that you are really drawn to what is happening, look for volunteer opportunities to help others during this time. Alternately, focus on self-care, learning new skills, or activities that you enjoy.

 

Medical Workers

 

Now, if you are a medical worker, it may be impossible to maintain balance in the short-term as your focus is on your work. This is understandable as you are working long hours and focusing on saving lives. It is important to relax and meditate as best you can. Once things slow down, you need to make sure and take time for yourself to heal, not from the virus, but from the stress.

 

Front Line Workers

 

Similarly, if you are a front line worker, you may be feeling a lot of stress as you work to maintain your health while coming in contact with the public. It is key not to worry about your situation. Instead, take the actions (e.g. masks, hand washing) that you can take to maintain your health.

 

No matter what your situation is, it is important to choose action over worry. Even if you are temporarily out of work, there are actions that you can take. Start by checking into unemployment, looking for temporary work, and checking into government programs. You may also consider free online training that will help you enhance your job opportunities in the future.

 

Action Over Worry

 

No cases exist where worry or complaining to a friend will add value to your life. Granted, you may need to unload occasionally. That is fine. However, if worry and complaint are the topic of every conversation, there are better areas of focus. Instead, engage your friends and/or family in brainstorming options, research possibilities, and don’t be afraid to reach out to someone who may be able to assist you.

 

Acting won’t completely eliminate worry, but it will lessen it and you may even find a solution!

 

Self-Care

 

Most people don’t get enough self-care under normal circumstances. Given the current situation, everyone needs extra self-care. You may want to consider what you have done for yourself lately. You may want to read, spend some time on a hobby, or have an energy treatment. Focusing on one’s self is critical in order to keep a high vibration and stay healthy.

 

A focus on self-care allows you to be able to focus on, care for, and support your family, friends, and community.

 

Your Focus

 

Survey the last two weeks and determine where your focus has been. Have you had any focus on caring for yourself? Has your focus been primarily positive? Do you have plans to focus on positive things in the coming weeks?

 

The answers to these questions are more important than ever given the current world situation. Be very cautious on selecting where you focus your energy since what you focus on is often pulled into your life. Thus, a focus on love of self, family, friends, and community will pull more love and joy into your life.

 

 

 

letting go to connect

It might seem counter-intuitive to say that you need to let go of things in order to better connect. Yet, letting go is often the first step in being fully present and completely connected in a situation.

 

Connecting To The Present

 

To be a success in your job, relationship, or any other thing you choose, you must connect to the present. Your focus must on the “here and now” instead of “what could be” or “what might have been.”

 

For example, you will only succeed in your job if you focus on the job that you have today. If you focus on your dream job or the job that got away, you will not do as good of a job. Additionally, you will likely be unhappy. Now, if you focus on your current job and do a great job, another job may await you that takes you a step closer to your dream job.

 

The same is true of relationships. If you focus on a past relationship or an ideal one, you are bound to miss the potential of current relationships.

 

Likewise, if you focus on yesterday or tomorrow, you will miss opportunities that are right in front of you today.

 

Holding Onto The Past

 

In the current world situation, disconnecting from the present might seem like a good idea. It is easy to think of the things you planned to do or how life was so different just a month ago. You might even focus on “if I had only.” However, that only disconnects you from the present.

 

Instead, you might consider this situation an opportunity or a challenge. If you are working from home, consider how to be more productive. Challenge yourself to stay connected to co-workers in a socially-distanced world. If you are still going to a place of employment, make it a challenge. Create new ideas for maintaining distance from other workers and look for other ways of staying healthy.

 

If you have more free time, consider connecting with family, learning a new skill, or enjoying a hobby, or simply having some down time. Use this time to connect to whatever you want and need in your life.

 

Does It Add Value?

 

No matter how you are spending your time you are likely still being bombarded with information about the current situation. Being aware is good; getting caught up in information overload and drama is not good.

 

If the information grasps your focus but adds no value, you may want to consider letting it go. For example, it is easy for some people to get caught up looking at the latest stories on social media, checking the virus statistics, or watching the stock market. The question is, “Do any of these things add value to your life?” If you are going to make changes because of them, then maybe there is a valid reason. However, if you aren’t going to change anything, consider letting them go or minimizing the time you focus on them.

 

These are not things you can control. Instead, turn your attention away and focus on being present in the moment.

 

Dreams

 

None of this negates having dreams and ideas of a better life and a better world in the future. You should absolutely continue to dream. It is just that the dream should not get in the way of your life.

 

For instance, if you are 20 and a budding football star, it makes sense to eat, breathe and live football in hopes of becoming a Denver Bronco. However, if you are sixty-years old and you are still holding onto the same dream, you may have missed out on a lot of life. Continuing to focus your time, thoughts, and actions on that dream means that you are likely missing out on connecting with other possibilities.

 

In this example, the dream should have been transformed or dropped thirty years earlier so that you could be present and enjoy life. As the late Kenny Rogers sang in the Gambler,

 

You’ve got to know when to hold ’em
Know when to fold ’em
Know when to walk away
And know when to run
(1)

 

Dreams are the same way. If you continue to hold them beyond their time, you will miss out of living life.

 

Be Present

 

Thus, to stay as healthy as possible, let go of all those things that are not serving you. This will allow you to connect to those people and things that are most important to you in a healthier, stronger way.

Apply it today and find yourself more fully present. New and improved connections are awaiting you!

 

staying connected during social distancing

Staying connected with friends and family is often a challenge. However, it is more important than ever at this time. Yet, the challenges are even greater with the recommendation/requirement of widespread social distancing.

 

Social Distancing

 

“Social Distancing” is a bit of a misnomer. The intent of social distancing isn’t to distance yourself from others socially. Instead, the idea is to distance yourself from others physically. Staying connected to family and friends while distancing yourself physically is actually very important during this time of isolation.

 

People are not intended by their very nature to be alone as humans are social beings and require human contact. The amount of contact varies with extroverts needing contact with more people than introverts. However, introverts still need contact, but usually thrive best when in contact with a small circle of friends and family.

 

During a time when most people are spending a majority of time at home, extra non-physical contact can boost the energy of the people involved. It not only helps boost the energy and health of the person you contact, but also does the same for you.

 

Reaching Out

 

Often we get busy and don’t connect with friends and family as often as we plan. For many of us, this is an opportunity to reach out to friends and family more often. It is especially important for older people and people who live alone to continue to have human interaction. Thus, if you are able, contact them electronically each and every day.

 

Contacts with others do not have to require a lot of time. It can be a quick text, email, Facebook message, or other “text” style conversation. However, there is nothing like hearing someone else’s voice, especially for older people who may struggle with technology. So, if you can, give someone a quick call. Additionally, technology, such as, Skype, Zoom, and Facetime, allow you to see each other, which adds a bit more to the level of connection.

Focus of Conversations

 

You should make sure that loved ones are aware of the latest information on the situation and the steps that they should be taking. However, for the most part conversations should be fun and upbeat. Focusing on good things will help you, too.

 

Sometimes topics of discussion can be a challenge when everyone is spending time at home and haven’t been anywhere or done anything. To combat this issue, think of topics ahead of time. You can consult the World Wide Web for ideas as there are lists for everything. However, a good place to start is asking the other person about a hobby or something that they do which you know little about. For older family members, ask them about their childhood, their parents, their siblings, eras gone by, etc.

 

Staying connected is the only way to go – even with social distancing! Stay connected at a distance! Be well and help others be well!

 

 

We have a list of Resources for managing through the current situation.  They include links to official information, healing/energy work sources, online activities, educational material, tips for working from home, and much more.  Click here to access the list of Resources.

 

 

skip the fear

Fear never leads to a feeling of peace.  Thus, instead of allowing fear to permeate your life, skip the fear and connect to peace.  In many ways choosing peace is choosing love. Without love we are guaranteed to have no peace.

 

Yet, every day people choose negativity, hate, and anger. Although none of those leads to love or peace, they are a pattern in the world today. Even those who try to give them up, often struggle to keep their focus on love and peace. It is no wonder people struggle as there is so much negative hype in the news media and social media.

 

The Virus & The Media

 

The news media is working overtime with stories on the coronavirus. It is important to inform people about the dangers of this virus and provide updates on the steps that are being taken to combat it. However, often the tone of the stories, and headlines in particular, are alarming.

 

Rather than informing people and keeping people calm, the media and some public figures are actually creating hysteria. There is a big difference between being concerned and taking precautions versus buying 500 rolls of toilet paper and 30 cases of water that you won’t use in the next 3 months.

 

Don’t Panic

 

The first and most important thing you can do for your health is to take a deep breath and relax. Skip the fear given panic and worry will only diminish your quality of life. They are guaranteed NOT to help.

 

Realize that this too will pass. The panic of today will be replaced by sanity and understanding. Doctors and scientists are understanding more about this virus every day. Vaccinations are being developed. After all, although this is “new,” it is in a classification of viruses that are already known. So, it may have unique attributes, but it isn’t completely foreign to doctors.

 

Relax. Skip the fear. Life will go on. It just may not be quite as luxurious as it was a month ago, but it will go on.

 

Energetically Speaking

 

The energy of panic and worry only brings about more panic and worry. The energy that you transmit is the energy that you will draw to you. So, if you emit panic and worry, you will help the virus and the worry to grow for yourself and others.

 

Thus, if you desire peace, calm, and a time of little worry, peace and love are where you need to put your energy. By doing so, you will help the world heal and defeat this virus.

 

Actions You Can Take

 

What can you do? Practice good hygiene, make good decisions about where you go (assuming you have a choice), limit your news intake, ignore fake and exaggerated stories (verify stories and sources before posting on social media or sharing with friends), and be realistic. Do you really think you will use 500 rolls of toilet paper any time soon?

 

If you are exposed to the virus, self-quarantine and follow all the procedures that authorities provide. Even in this case, remain calm. Energetically cleanse yourself. And, keep a good attitude. Just because you may have been exposed, doesn’t mean you will get the virus. If you do get it, remember that a high percentage of the cases are mild (yes, you wouldn’t know that by listening to many of the news stories).

 

Right now the media is constantly beating the coronavirus drum. Remember that fear leads to good ratings and increased online clicks. So, they have an incentive for you to be afraid. Instead of falling into the negative energy of fear, stay calm. Look for the facts. Go to the CDC website and read about it yourself.

 

Rather than focusing your energy on the fear and negativity, focus your energy toward a healthy world. Keeping a laser focus on love, patience, and healing is a step toward feeling at peace!

 

Join us Thursday March 19 for a free online class on Energetic Tips for Staying Healthy.  Click here for more information.

 

Connecting to Gratitude

Connecting to gratitude is one of the keys to healing, happiness, and moving forward. Although it sounds simple, it is often overlooked and sometimes quite challenging.

 

The Easy Stuff

 

It is easy to find good in many things. For instance, having a place to live and food to eat are both good. However, often people take these things for granted or simply accept them without gratitude.

 

The first step in connecting with gratitude is to start seeing these obviously good things as blessings. Prayer, meditation, notes of gratitude, or any other gratitude ritual will help create the connection to gratitude.

 

The Challenge

 

But, what about the bad things in life? Extra work is required to search for something positive worthy of gratitude when considering something that is overall bad. The reason is simple. Being in an emotionally abusive relationship, losing a job, and having an illness rarely have an obvious reason for gratitude. However, connecting to gratitude is very important. Without doing so, truly moving forward is next to impossible.

 

Learning that these experiences have made you who you are is very important to conquering this challenge. Except in cases where a person loathes themselves, it helps a person gain an understanding that value can come in many packages. To take that next step forward, it is critical to be able to give gratitude for those experiences, no matter how negative the situation.

 

Looking For The Light

 

Sometimes it takes a lot of searching to find light in something bad. One way to look at something bad is to look at what good has happened because of the bad situation. For instance, perhaps you wouldn’t have met a certain person, moved to a new city, or looked for a different job if the bad situation hadn’t happened.

 

For example, when I was a senior in college, a company interviewed me and wanted to hire me. The problem was that because of things going on in their industry they were not allowed to hire anyone. Now, this company was ideal for me. It paid well, had previously hired a lot of people from my college, and their offices where only a couple of hours away from my family.

 

It wasn’t something terribly bad, but definitely not good either. Fortunately, at the time, I just accepted it as fact and looked at other options. In retrospect, I am grateful that it didn’t work out. If they had been hiring, I likely wouldn’t have pursued working for Bell Labs. Thus, I likely wouldn’t have ended up living in Denver and I would never have met my husband.

 

People have situations that are much worse than the one I recounted. However, there is almost always something for which to be grateful.

 

Letting Go

 

If you are really struggling with finding good about something, it is likely that there are things that you need to let go. Perhaps you haven’t fully let go of a bad relationship or you keep ties to people at a company where you had an awful experience. In these cases, you need to ask if these continued relationships are serving you.

 

The same can be asked of objects that you choose to keep. If they are a reminder of something negative, ask yourself if you need them in your life today.

 

Additionally, you may continue to have an emotional attachment to the situation – no matter how bad it was. Anger, frustration, and even love can continue to hold you to the situation.

 

Once these emotions and other connections to bad situations have been resolved, you will be able to see beyond the negative. At that point, you can see that you became stronger, that your new job really is better for you, or something positive did come from the situation.

 

It can be very difficult to reach the point of being able to find gratitude for something related to a bad situation. After all, it is all very personal to you.

 

Forgiveness is Key

 

One of the keys to being able to express gratitude in negative situations is to forgive those involved in the bad situation. Once you truly forgive them, you can find light in what happened.

 

This shouldn’t be confused with justifying what happened or forgetting what happened. Neither should it be forgiving the person for their benefit. All of these are unhealthy actions. Instead, it should be forgiving for your benefit. To make you healthy. To make you whole.

 

Connecting to Gratitude

 

Start expressing gratitude for the little things and the things that you normally take for granted. Once you are able, express gratitude for the light in the bad things. The more you express gratitude for the light in all things; the more positive things will come your way.

 

If you would like assistance moving toward gratitude, we offer private sessions Forgiving and Releasing that will help you on your way.  Additionally, we offer a group event The Power of Forgiveness.

 

 

 

So often people talk of change without really thinking about the effort they must make to create change. In many cases, the change they desire is simply wishful thinking. The person wants a job that pays more, a new relationship, to travel, or to spend more time with family. However, they simply want them without being willing to make an effort to bring those things into their lives.

 

In many cases, these goals are achievable. However, they will not magically happen without focus and effort.

 

Making Space

 

Generally, if you want to add or change something to your life, you have to have room for that person, activity, etc. It is very much like a shelf. If you have a shelf that is completely packed with items, you can’t add another item to the shelf without removing something. The same is true with life in general.

 

Making space can relate to making physical space, but it can also include making time, being emotionally open, and having a willingness to accept new ideas.

 

What Is Serving You

 

The first thing to do is to survey your life and determine which objects, activities, etc. are still serving you and which are not. For example, if you want a new relationship, you may want to survey your home for items related to an ex. It is also important to ensure that you have mental and emotional space for a new relationship. Ask yourself, “What am I holding onto that relates to my ex?” Follow it with the simple question, “Why am I holding onto it?”

 

Likewise, if you want to pursue a hobby, but don’t ever seem to have the time, look at where you are spending your time. Clearly, there are some things that have to be done, but many things are not required. Do you really need to be on the PTA? Can you get someone to assist with the family reunion? Do you really need to watch so much TV? All these questions help you identify what is important to you. If the ways you are spending your time are all more important to you than the hobby you desire, you need to realize that it is your choice to do those things instead of the hobby.

 

Removing Unneeded Connections

 

Once you have identified those things that need change in order for you to change, it is important to remove or alter the connection with those items. For instance, if you have a chair that your ex bought, you might simply decide to sell or donate the chair to remove the energy of your ex. However, you may love that chair and need it for seating. In this case, it may be more practical to do an energy clearing or to transform the chair in some way. Painting, reupholstering, or even moving the chair may help in changing the energy of the chair.

 

The most important thing, however, is to ensure that you view the chair differently. If you still think of your ex every time you sit in it, you have not yet removed the connection to your ex. It is important to release your ex and begin seeing the chair as simply your chair.

 

Likewise, you need to make room emotionally for a new person. If you are always thinking about how things were with your ex, there will be no room for anyone new. An excellent way to achieve the release of old emotions is to recognize what positive your gained from the relationship, whether the relationship was good or bad. Show gratitude for those positive things and then simply release the person. There are several ways this can be achieved and you may even have your own ritual that you would like to use to release old, unneeded emotions.

 

Building New Connections

 

Once you ensure that you have room in your life for that which you desire, it is important to start building connections toward your desired outcome. In the case of relationships, this can include taking action to go out and meet people, joining an on-line dating service, or making sure that you are in the best shape you can be. All these things start to build connections toward supporting a new relationship.

 

In the case of a new job, you might simply update your resume, start scanning the internet for job openings, and start talking to friends about your desire for a new job. These actions send messages out to the Universe allowing the Universe to assist in creating the ultimate connection that you desire.

 

If you are truly committed to change and you follow these steps, you may be surprised at what will change in your life!

 

If you need assistance making space in your life for change, contact us. We offer several services that assist with this process.

 

Releasing: A Key to Healing

 

 

Most people have an event from their past that clings to them like a baby clings to their pacifier. Like a parent who thinks their baby is ready to give up their pacifier, the person may think they are ready to give up the memory. And, no matter how hard the parent tries, the baby resists giving up their pacifier. Similarly no matter how hard the person tries to forget, the memory won’t leave. It seems to be permanently etched into their brain.

 

Even when someone is not consciously recalling the memory, that instance of memory can consume some of the person’s energy like a dripping faucet leaks water. Although one instance of memory may not be a significant drain on a person, if there are lots of memories connected to the person, the person may experience a significant drain. In some cases, one single instance can be enough to be a continual drain on a person.

 

Staying Connected

 

Energetically speaking, people may hold onto events, places, and people. Think of the old time switch boards where there was a person making a voice connection by plugging a line into a socket. This created a physical connection that allowed a person on one end to speak to the person on the other end. Energy works in a very similar manner. In the switchboard era, you could hang up and come back an hour later and begin talking if the switchboard operator had left the connection in place.

 

The same is true if the universe has not severed the energetic connection. When that connection remains, the other person, company, or event continues to be connected to the person.  This is true even if they are no longer a part of that person’s life. Unfortunately, trauma is often the cord that binds the two together. The more trauma someone has experienced, the more likely there will be a strong energetic connection they will have to the place, event, or person.

 

What stays connected to someone may seem completely random and insignificant to other people. In fact, others that witnessed an event that someone found traumatic may not even be able to recall the event. To the traumatized person, however, the reason they can recall these events, places, and people so vividly is because of the trauma they experienced.

 

No Longer Needed

 

These events, places, and people created an energetic connection. When these connections no longer serve the person in a positive manner, the person needs to decide if they are ready to release the connection. This doesn’t mean that they will forget the people or events. However, it does mean that these people and events of the past will no longer have influence over their lives.

 

The connection can be released in a variety of ways. Some people opt for counseling while others do journaling, meditation, or energy work. The act of releasing heals old wounds and allows you to thrive.

 

Once released, the person may feel more energized. They may physically feel like a weight is lifted from them. New opportunities may also arise once they are no longer being held back by these connections.

 

What are you waiting for? Release! It is the key to healing.

 

Energetic Connection

 

 

Have you ever had a place, food, service, or professional recommended to you by someone you trust only to find that you don’t feel the same way? It has probably happened to most everyone. But, why?

 

Does It Resonate?

 

A business, house, church, or restaurant can be highly recommended and yet it just doesn’t seem to resonate with you. In the case of a restaurant, the food is good and the atmosphere is fine, but it just doesn’t feel quite right. For a church, the people can be nice and the beliefs aligned with your own. Yet, it too doesn’t feel right. The same can be said of almost anything or any one.

 

With relationships, your friend can introduce you to someone who seems perfect for you. That person seems to have all the attributes that you are looking for in a relationship. Still, there isn’t a spark and you may not even get along at all.

 

Energetic Connection

 

The reason for these reactions is that you do not connect with these places and people. It goes far beyond the logic that says that you should like these places. Instead, it falls into the category of an energetic connection.

 

Two people, places or things can have positive energy and seem to have much in common. However, the energy of the two is incompatible and they don’t resonate with each other. This does not mean that there is anything negative about either one. They simply aren’t an energetic match for each other.

 

Your Energy Knows

 

Thus, it is important to tap into your energetic sensors that give you that feeling of this is a match or not. If you simply rely on facts and logic, you will spend lots of time figuring out what your energy already knows.

 

Interestingly, if you tap into that energy, you will see the facts differently. Facts that might be interpreted as major roadblocks for something that is wrong for you will be dismissed or seen as minor bumps if it is energetically right for you. It is important to distinguish viewing facts with an energetic perspective from taking the facts and trying to make them fit because you want them to fit. These are two very different things.

 

Tap into your energy today and decisions will become obvious!

 

 

intuition told me he was guilty

 

 

 

One day I was called for jury duty. On this particular day, I was one of the “lucky” ones that had to show up to see if we would be selected to serve on a case. After I arrived, the staff gave a group of us questionnaires. One quick look at the questions and it was clear that the case was related to sexual assault.

 

We answered the questions and waited. Some people were dismissed. I am not sure what was cause for dismissal because I know that the group that remained included people who had been sexually assaulted and people who had good friends or family that had been sexually assaulted. The issue I believe is that almost everyone knew someone who had been through this horrific crime.

 

Instant Reaction

 

They ushered those of us in the jury pool into the courtroom. As soon as they brought the defendant in, tears began streaming down my face. It was automatic and completely outside my control. He was clear across the room from me and was a man whose looks would not have raised an eyebrow – clean-shaven, suit, etc. However, the feeling of guilt permeated the entire room.

 

When they said that the charge was “sexual assault on a child by a person in a position of trust,” the feeling became even stronger. I was sure that he was guilty of everything he was accused of doing and more.

 

The Interview

 

Fortunately, anyone that even knew someone who had been sexually assaulted was interviewed in private. Now, I was only three feet or so from the defendant and I really wanted to leave. The lawyers on the other hand really wanted me on the jury. They asked me about being a manager and about being logical. In any other situation, I would have said, “Absolutely, I can listen to the facts and make a decision.” However, this case was different. It was hard to make those statements.

 

Tears kept coming throughout the questioning. Finally, a lawyer asked if I was going to be like that throughout the trial. I simply said, “I don’t know.” With that, I was dismissed.

 

I sat in my car for several minutes to compose myself enough to drive. Over the next several days, I found myself crying on and off. It took quite some time to get over being in the same space with that man. I can’t imagine how difficult it would have been to sit through the trial.

 

No Doubt

 

I do not know the outcome of the trial. But, I am sure beyond a shadow of a doubt that he was guilty. I had connected to energy that was so strong that it didn’t just give me a feeling of discomfort in my gut as a warning, but shook me to my core. The knowing and gut feel are common for me. However, I am not usually overly emotional. I was feeling a little of his victims’ pain (they never said that there were multiple, but I was sure that this was a pattern of behavior).

 

This occurred many years ago, but I remember it like it was yesterday. I hope to never experience anything like that again. However, I know that if I should encounter a situation like that again that I could use the many energetic tools I have added to my energetic tool bag over the years to help lessen the impact.

 

Don’t forget to listen to your gut feel! And, when you get that feeling, use protective energetic boundaries to keep it under control!