So often people talk of change without really thinking about the effort they must make to create change. In many cases, the change they desire is simply wishful thinking. The person wants a job that pays more, a new relationship, to travel, or to spend more time with family. However, they simply want them without being willing to make an effort to bring those things into their lives.

 

In many cases, these goals are achievable. However, they will not magically happen without focus and effort.

 

Making Space

 

Generally, if you want to add or change something to your life, you have to have room for that person, activity, etc. It is very much like a shelf. If you have a shelf that is completely packed with items, you can’t add another item to the shelf without removing something. The same is true with life in general.

 

Making space can relate to making physical space, but it can also include making time, being emotionally open, and having a willingness to accept new ideas.

 

What Is Serving You

 

The first thing to do is to survey your life and determine which objects, activities, etc. are still serving you and which are not. For example, if you want a new relationship, you may want to survey your home for items related to an ex. It is also important to ensure that you have mental and emotional space for a new relationship. Ask yourself, “What am I holding onto that relates to my ex?” Follow it with the simple question, “Why am I holding onto it?”

 

Likewise, if you want to pursue a hobby, but don’t ever seem to have the time, look at where you are spending your time. Clearly, there are some things that have to be done, but many things are not required. Do you really need to be on the PTA? Can you get someone to assist with the family reunion? Do you really need to watch so much TV? All these questions help you identify what is important to you. If the ways you are spending your time are all more important to you than the hobby you desire, you need to realize that it is your choice to do those things instead of the hobby.

 

Removing Unneeded Connections

 

Once you have identified those things that need change in order for you to change, it is important to remove or alter the connection with those items. For instance, if you have a chair that your ex bought, you might simply decide to sell or donate the chair to remove the energy of your ex. However, you may love that chair and need it for seating. In this case, it may be more practical to do an energy clearing or to transform the chair in some way. Painting, reupholstering, or even moving the chair may help in changing the energy of the chair.

 

The most important thing, however, is to ensure that you view the chair differently. If you still think of your ex every time you sit in it, you have not yet removed the connection to your ex. It is important to release your ex and begin seeing the chair as simply your chair.

 

Likewise, you need to make room emotionally for a new person. If you are always thinking about how things were with your ex, there will be no room for anyone new. An excellent way to achieve the release of old emotions is to recognize what positive your gained from the relationship, whether the relationship was good or bad. Show gratitude for those positive things and then simply release the person. There are several ways this can be achieved and you may even have your own ritual that you would like to use to release old, unneeded emotions.

 

Building New Connections

 

Once you ensure that you have room in your life for that which you desire, it is important to start building connections toward your desired outcome. In the case of relationships, this can include taking action to go out and meet people, joining an on-line dating service, or making sure that you are in the best shape you can be. All these things start to build connections toward supporting a new relationship.

 

In the case of a new job, you might simply update your resume, start scanning the internet for job openings, and start talking to friends about your desire for a new job. These actions send messages out to the Universe allowing the Universe to assist in creating the ultimate connection that you desire.

 

If you are truly committed to change and you follow these steps, you may be surprised at what will change in your life!

 

If you need assistance making space in your life for change, contact us. We offer several services that assist with this process.

 

 

 

 

In our previous article “Throw-Away Society,” we discussed the ramifications to a person’s energy when one-time use items and other items are constantly discarded. This article looks at the flip side of that issue.  It explores when  identifying and taking action when items no longer serve you.

 

Not everything you have – even the really nice things or the things that have been passed down through the generations – serve you. These items can bring forward wonderful energy of family. You may have spent $1000 to purchase other items.  However, neither of these scenarios mean that the item is right for you now.

 

Check The Energy

 

It is important to go through your home from time to time and check the energy of the home. Check all aspects of the home to determine what no longer serves you, what is missing, what needs to be moved, etc. Key things to consider about items in your home are whether it brings you joy or provides a necessary function.

 

 An oven, bed, and dishes all provide a function for you. However, it still could be time to get rid of them if there is some negative emotions attached to the item. For instance, if every time you look at the dishes you think of your ex because he bought them for you when you were vacationing in Hawaii, it is probably time for them to go.

 

Extra Stuff

 

Other items may simply be taking up space in your home. Even items that came from family may no longer be the right things for you. A great example is a vase that I have. It came from my grandmother and is quite unusual. I really like it. However, if it were ever to be in my younger son’s home, I wouldn’t expect it to last long because he finds the vase “creepy.” So, despite the fact that it has been in the family for a number of years, it would be unhealthy for him to hang onto it.

 

Some items just need to be moved or thinned out.   The energy can change a lot by moving items from one location to another. Also, sometimes less is more. Instead of the collection of 60 shot glasses, a collection of 30 of the most interesting ones might better serve you. Remember that just because you have it doesn’t mean that you have to keep it forever.

 

Other things to consider are: kids projects, materials for crafts you no longer do, one of the six casserole dishes that are in your cabinet, and the tea set that you never use. If these items are just there, they are energetic and physical clutter.

 

Continual Process

 

It is a continual process and requires balance. Buying or picking up something free and turning around and getting rid of it is no better energetically than holding onto something that does not serve you. As you get rid of items, remember that you aren’t required to refill every inch of the space. Consider moving other items around to balance the energy.

Remember everything is energy. Each item brings energy when it comes into your space and takes energy when it leaves your space. Good choices make your energy and your space whole.

 

See our Healing Your Space Package to learn more about our services to help you energize your space!

 

 

 

 

 

After a recent death in the family, I helped the family clean the house.   As is true in many cases of an unexpected death, time was limited as family members were in town for only a few days.

 

Tossing Things

 

Although time was of the essence, it was difficult to see so many things going into the dumpster. New packages of things that could be used by someone landed in a trash bag. Still, many items discarded were things that couldn’t be sold or donated. So, I took a deep breath as we tossed them in the trash.

 

When it came to small appliances, dishes, and other household items, I volunteered to take them to a donation center so that they wouldn’t simply be thrown away.  I even salvaged a few items as they were going into the trash because I knew they were valuable or usable by others.

 

This experience was a great reminder of the throw-away society that we have become. I cannot imagine the average person 100 years ago throwing away anything usable. Of course, they had less actual things in their homes and had lots of children to divide things between.

 

Picking Up Energy

 

Given that things we have in our homes and touch with our hands pick up our energy, I started wondering what a throw-away society meant to the world energetically. In the days of old, household objects were used until no longer usable. In many cases,  items were passed down from generation to generation. This brought forth the energy of the family to new generations.

 

These items were durable and lasted for years and years. In contrast, many things today are designed only to last for a single use. Even things designed to last longer are rarely designed to last even the entire lifetime of one person. Instead, each of these items are discarded when people are done with them, which can simply mean that they have grown tired of the item or used it a time or two.

 

Losing Energy

 

If we consider that each item picks up a bit of our energy, we must assume that a part of our energy is lost each time an item is discarded. So, instead of our homes being full of the energy of our family and our ancestors as in the past, we now have pockets of emptiness.

 

The solution is simple. Use less one-time use items. Keep select items from our family (you don’t have to keep everything). Lastly,  carefully purchase items with the idea that we will keep them for a long time. By making these changes our homes will have a wealth of energy and the gaps will be fewer. This strength of energy is important in order to fully connect our energy to the world!

 

Coming soon: Part II – “When It No Longer Serves You”