focus your energy on what is most important

Life is busy and it may have been some time since you have asked yourself where you regularly focus your energy. Perhaps, this is a question that you have never asked yourself. Still, it is a very important question, especially in light of the current world situation.

 

The World Situation

 

You may be focused solely on getting through the coming weeks as we live through the most significant pandemic of our lifetimes. It is natural to flip into survival mode when your way of life is threatened.

 

It is normal to be concerned about health, loved ones, jobs, finances, food, and even toilet paper. However, there has to be prioritization and the appropriate level of concern. Toilet paper is not nearly as important as having a roof over your head and being healthy. It is definitely not something that requires you to buy every package you can find.

 

Maintaining Balance

 

Balance is critical. It will be much easier to take a balanced approach to life if you limit your focus on COVID-19 information. It is important to stay up to date on the government rules, but too much news is not healthy.

 

If you find yourself listening to lots of news commentary or you are constantly checking the coronavirus numbers (and you aren’t a government or medical statistician), you may be focusing too much on the current situation.

 

It is especially unhealthy to listen to the “political” views of the situation, which are not meant to inform anyone of facts, but are intended to stir your emotions and influence your political opinions. Anger and negativity are the last things you need in your life right now, as love and calmness are the feelings that lead us through the situation.

 

If you feel that you are really drawn to what is happening, look for volunteer opportunities to help others during this time. Alternately, focus on self-care, learning new skills, or activities that you enjoy.

 

Medical Workers

 

Now, if you are a medical worker, it may be impossible to maintain balance in the short-term as your focus is on your work. This is understandable as you are working long hours and focusing on saving lives. It is important to relax and meditate as best you can. Once things slow down, you need to make sure and take time for yourself to heal, not from the virus, but from the stress.

 

Front Line Workers

 

Similarly, if you are a front line worker, you may be feeling a lot of stress as you work to maintain your health while coming in contact with the public. It is key not to worry about your situation. Instead, take the actions (e.g. masks, hand washing) that you can take to maintain your health.

 

No matter what your situation is, it is important to choose action over worry. Even if you are temporarily out of work, there are actions that you can take. Start by checking into unemployment, looking for temporary work, and checking into government programs. You may also consider free online training that will help you enhance your job opportunities in the future.

 

Action Over Worry

 

No cases exist where worry or complaining to a friend will add value to your life. Granted, you may need to unload occasionally. That is fine. However, if worry and complaint are the topic of every conversation, there are better areas of focus. Instead, engage your friends and/or family in brainstorming options, research possibilities, and don’t be afraid to reach out to someone who may be able to assist you.

 

Acting won’t completely eliminate worry, but it will lessen it and you may even find a solution!

 

Self-Care

 

Most people don’t get enough self-care under normal circumstances. Given the current situation, everyone needs extra self-care. You may want to consider what you have done for yourself lately. You may want to read, spend some time on a hobby, or have an energy treatment. Focusing on one’s self is critical in order to keep a high vibration and stay healthy.

 

A focus on self-care allows you to be able to focus on, care for, and support your family, friends, and community.

 

Your Focus

 

Survey the last two weeks and determine where your focus has been. Have you had any focus on caring for yourself? Has your focus been primarily positive? Do you have plans to focus on positive things in the coming weeks?

 

The answers to these questions are more important than ever given the current world situation. Be very cautious on selecting where you focus your energy since what you focus on is often pulled into your life. Thus, a focus on love of self, family, friends, and community will pull more love and joy into your life.

 

 

 

disconnected

Today many people are struggling with being home away from family and friends. Yet, being disconnected can provide opportunities.

 

Growing Up In A Disconnected World

 

I grew up in a relatively disconnected world. We lived in a rural area with our closest neighbors a quarter of a mile away, but most much farther. On top of that, my mom didn’t drive. Therefore, until I got my driver’s license we usually didn’t go anywhere unless we could bike there or dad was home.

 

A tiny grocery existed about 4 miles away. However, most grocery shopping was done “in town” 15 miles away. Thus, grocery shopping was a once a week task. On very rare occasions, dad would stop to pick up milk, bread, or another necessity on his way home. However, generally we cooked whatever we had and I learned to improvise.

 

We did have a telephone, but we mostly made local calls because talking long-distance was expensive. So, we stayed mostly to ourselves outside of school and seeing family from time to time.

 

Being disconnected, I learned how to entertain myself, read for hours and hours, learned how to make cookies out of nothing at all, and learned to enjoy solitude. I would likely not have focused in these areas if we were always on the go.

 

Today’s Situation

 

Today, despite staying home, we are still very connected to people through electronics. However, many people are more disconnected than they have ever been in their life. Such a change can be challenging.

 

Finding Yourself

 

In recent years, you may have found it difficult to get away or to say, “No” to social engagements. Now, you have the perfect opportunity to find yourself, pamper yourself, discover what you love, or spend time with your family.

 

Have you sat back lately and asked yourself, “Who am I?” It is an interesting question. You may identify yourself as a parent, a spouse, a teacher, or a dedicated member of your church.

 

Still, who are you really? Look deep inside and consider the things that are most important to you. Perhaps there are dreams that you have put on hold or core values that you compromised along your journey.

 

Now, you have a chance to focus on those things that are important to you. Spend time with yourself, get reacquainted, and create a new path forward.

 

Discover What You Love

 

Consider what you truly love. Perhaps your journey has taken twists and turns to the point that you no longer love the things you once did. Alternately, that dream may still be waiting for you.

 

Focus some time on your hobbies. Investigate something that you have been meaning to try for some time. Or, try several random things and see if something speaks to you.

 

Pamper Yourself

 

While focusing on rediscovering yourself, also pamper yourself. Pampering can take many forms. Go outside, exercise, and enjoy the sunshine. Also, take time to make healthy meals from scratch and get some extra sleep. Plus, make sure to include an indulgence or two.

 

Connect With Your Family

 

During this disconnected time, you also have an opportunity to reconnect with your family in new and stronger ways. If they live with you, you can share in the self and family discovery together.

 

If your family is at a distance, you can still strengthen your connection. Extra phone calls to check in on them not only helps them, but can also enhance your relationship. Consider video calls and activities if practical.

 

For instance, we discovered that we really enjoy having game night with the kids via video. The crazy thing is that despite having them at a distance for years, we had never developed a habit of connecting via video or doing regular activities together. Now, I hope we keep it as a regular family gathering.

 

Disconnected – The Opportunity

 

So, instead of seeing this time in a negative light, look for the opportunities. Disconnected can feel good!

 

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letting go to connect

It might seem counter-intuitive to say that you need to let go of things in order to better connect. Yet, letting go is often the first step in being fully present and completely connected in a situation.

 

Connecting To The Present

 

To be a success in your job, relationship, or any other thing you choose, you must connect to the present. Your focus must on the “here and now” instead of “what could be” or “what might have been.”

 

For example, you will only succeed in your job if you focus on the job that you have today. If you focus on your dream job or the job that got away, you will not do as good of a job. Additionally, you will likely be unhappy. Now, if you focus on your current job and do a great job, another job may await you that takes you a step closer to your dream job.

 

The same is true of relationships. If you focus on a past relationship or an ideal one, you are bound to miss the potential of current relationships.

 

Likewise, if you focus on yesterday or tomorrow, you will miss opportunities that are right in front of you today.

 

Holding Onto The Past

 

In the current world situation, disconnecting from the present might seem like a good idea. It is easy to think of the things you planned to do or how life was so different just a month ago. You might even focus on “if I had only.” However, that only disconnects you from the present.

 

Instead, you might consider this situation an opportunity or a challenge. If you are working from home, consider how to be more productive. Challenge yourself to stay connected to co-workers in a socially-distanced world. If you are still going to a place of employment, make it a challenge. Create new ideas for maintaining distance from other workers and look for other ways of staying healthy.

 

If you have more free time, consider connecting with family, learning a new skill, or enjoying a hobby, or simply having some down time. Use this time to connect to whatever you want and need in your life.

 

Does It Add Value?

 

No matter how you are spending your time you are likely still being bombarded with information about the current situation. Being aware is good; getting caught up in information overload and drama is not good.

 

If the information grasps your focus but adds no value, you may want to consider letting it go. For example, it is easy for some people to get caught up looking at the latest stories on social media, checking the virus statistics, or watching the stock market. The question is, “Do any of these things add value to your life?” If you are going to make changes because of them, then maybe there is a valid reason. However, if you aren’t going to change anything, consider letting them go or minimizing the time you focus on them.

 

These are not things you can control. Instead, turn your attention away and focus on being present in the moment.

 

Dreams

 

None of this negates having dreams and ideas of a better life and a better world in the future. You should absolutely continue to dream. It is just that the dream should not get in the way of your life.

 

For instance, if you are 20 and a budding football star, it makes sense to eat, breathe and live football in hopes of becoming a Denver Bronco. However, if you are sixty-years old and you are still holding onto the same dream, you may have missed out on a lot of life. Continuing to focus your time, thoughts, and actions on that dream means that you are likely missing out on connecting with other possibilities.

 

In this example, the dream should have been transformed or dropped thirty years earlier so that you could be present and enjoy life. As the late Kenny Rogers sang in the Gambler,

 

You’ve got to know when to hold ’em
Know when to fold ’em
Know when to walk away
And know when to run
(1)

 

Dreams are the same way. If you continue to hold them beyond their time, you will miss out of living life.

 

Be Present

 

Thus, to stay as healthy as possible, let go of all those things that are not serving you. This will allow you to connect to those people and things that are most important to you in a healthier, stronger way.

Apply it today and find yourself more fully present. New and improved connections are awaiting you!

 

staying connected during social distancing

Staying connected with friends and family is often a challenge. However, it is more important than ever at this time. Yet, the challenges are even greater with the recommendation/requirement of widespread social distancing.

 

Social Distancing

 

“Social Distancing” is a bit of a misnomer. The intent of social distancing isn’t to distance yourself from others socially. Instead, the idea is to distance yourself from others physically. Staying connected to family and friends while distancing yourself physically is actually very important during this time of isolation.

 

People are not intended by their very nature to be alone as humans are social beings and require human contact. The amount of contact varies with extroverts needing contact with more people than introverts. However, introverts still need contact, but usually thrive best when in contact with a small circle of friends and family.

 

During a time when most people are spending a majority of time at home, extra non-physical contact can boost the energy of the people involved. It not only helps boost the energy and health of the person you contact, but also does the same for you.

 

Reaching Out

 

Often we get busy and don’t connect with friends and family as often as we plan. For many of us, this is an opportunity to reach out to friends and family more often. It is especially important for older people and people who live alone to continue to have human interaction. Thus, if you are able, contact them electronically each and every day.

 

Contacts with others do not have to require a lot of time. It can be a quick text, email, Facebook message, or other “text” style conversation. However, there is nothing like hearing someone else’s voice, especially for older people who may struggle with technology. So, if you can, give someone a quick call. Additionally, technology, such as, Skype, Zoom, and Facetime, allow you to see each other, which adds a bit more to the level of connection.

Focus of Conversations

 

You should make sure that loved ones are aware of the latest information on the situation and the steps that they should be taking. However, for the most part conversations should be fun and upbeat. Focusing on good things will help you, too.

 

Sometimes topics of discussion can be a challenge when everyone is spending time at home and haven’t been anywhere or done anything. To combat this issue, think of topics ahead of time. You can consult the World Wide Web for ideas as there are lists for everything. However, a good place to start is asking the other person about a hobby or something that they do which you know little about. For older family members, ask them about their childhood, their parents, their siblings, eras gone by, etc.

 

Staying connected is the only way to go – even with social distancing! Stay connected at a distance! Be well and help others be well!

 

 

We have a list of Resources for managing through the current situation.  They include links to official information, healing/energy work sources, online activities, educational material, tips for working from home, and much more.  Click here to access the list of Resources.

 

 

Focus on what is under your control

The world today is challenging all of us. For most of us in the United States, we are accustomed to being able to do what we want, go where we want, and live in any fashion that we choose. By standards of yesteryear and even many countries today, we live in luxury. And, most people here have never experienced restrictions on our freedom. Now, we are facing a time where restrictions limit us. In that light, each of us must focus on what we can control.

 

The Great Depression & WWII

 

The last time there were significant nationwide restrictions on Americans was during World War II. Most of the people that experienced the days of the Great Depression and WWII are no longer with us. Only the few remaining members of the Greatest Generation remember those days. It is from them that we can get some perspective on the situation we are facing today.

 

Availability of Items

 

The challenges of the Great Depression and WWII were different than the challenge we face today. Still, there are some commonalities. During the 1930s and 1940s, the government rationed items because we could not get items, such as, sugar and coffee in a big enough supply for everyone to have as much as they desired. Other items, such as, shoes were rationed to save materials for the war. An important factor is that this wasn’t for a couple of months. These restrictions went on for several years, although some were eased over time.

 

Today items, such as, toilet paper and hand sanitizer are difficult to find in stores. However, the reasons are different. It isn’t that we can’t get materials to make them or that they are needed for another reason. Instead, they are scarce because of panic buying and in some cases hoarding with the idea of profiting off of the situation.

 

The availability of most items should return to normal shortly as people see that supplies are replenished and opportunists find that selling these items more difficult than they imagined due to rules put in place by online marketplaces. To assist with the situation, stores have begun rationing the number of some items that an individual can purchase at a given time until people return to normal purchasing patterns.

 

You can’t control what is on the shelves, but you can ensure that you buy only what you need. Perhaps consider a few extra items so that you have to shop less often, but don’t over do it. Consider how long it will take you to use the items you purchase. The less we all panic buy, the less likely we will have new restrictions on our freedom to purchase items of our choosing.

 

Restaurants and Bars

 

During the war, restaurants stayed open in most areas. However, some had limited hours. Likewise, in some areas nightlife was put on hold by local governments. The reasoning being that it was wrong for people to have fun while our soldiers were risking their lives. Yet, theaters were still open and people did get a burger and fries now and then.

 

Today, restaurants and bars are closed or have limited take-out and delivery services not because it wouldn’t look right, but instead to curb the transmission of COVID-19. One huge difference is that today people eat out far more than they did 80 years ago.

 

Eating out is a habit and some people do it daily. Thus, it seems like a much bigger issue to most people today than it was in 1940. This restriction on our freedom seems to some as overwhelming. If you are one of them, I recommend learning to cook (if you don’t know how), spending time with your family, learning about something you are interested in, or doing some other home activity that you enjoy. If you are an extrovert, talk on the phone, have group chats, email, message, and use social media sites to stay in contact.

 

Businesses

 

Already gyms, restaurants, museums, theaters, and other businesses have had their doors closed or their business greatly altered by government rules. Additionally, there are rumors that some businesses will be asked (or told) to convert to making medical supplies. This type of thing did happen during WWII. Businesses had no choice. The government told them what they would be making and the timeline they had to make it.

 

We aren’t accustomed to the government dictating the closure of businesses or what businesses can and cannot do. However, the longer this outbreak goes on, the more likely business decisions will be controlled by the government. Still, it doesn’t mean that it will be forever. As WWII ramped down, businesses returned to making the products they had made before the war almost overnight. In some cases, the first new civilian products rolled off the assembly lines the same day the restriction was lifted.

 

Travel Restrictions

 

People travel much more today than they did in the 1930s and 1940s. People fly at the drop of a hat, cruise on the oceans, and drive across the country without it being a big deal. It was just a part of life up until the last few weeks when travel restrictions started being put in place.

 

Travel restrictions today are a bit different than during WWII. During WWII, people weren’t technically restricted from travel. However, gas rationing made it nearly impossible to travel. And, if you blew a tire, you probably weren’t getting a new one for a long time, as they required government approval to purchase. Likewise, you had to have government approval to purchase a car or a tractor. Fortunately, we haven’t reached that point.

 

Travel may be greatly restricted right now. So, what can we do? Travel online. Research places that you would like to someday visit, find museum collections online, share stories of previous travel, etc. Use technology to bring travel and exotic places into your life.

 

Focus On What We Can Control

 

The government may control many aspects of life, however, they don’t control everything. Thus, it is important for each of us to focus on what we can control. We cannot control that we can’t hang out at our favorite restaurant. However, if we can afford it, we can still order take out. We can also experiment with making new kinds of food, try new hobbies, etc.

 

We don’t have to allow restrictions on our freedoms to lead to negative thinking. By focusing on what is under your control, we will keep a positive mindset and make it through this situation better people than we were before. We have the Greatest Generation as our role model. Make them proud.

 

Join us March 26 as we discuss Being In Control In Uncertain Times.  The event is FREE.

 

 

skip the fear

Fear never leads to a feeling of peace.  Thus, instead of allowing fear to permeate your life, skip the fear and connect to peace.  In many ways choosing peace is choosing love. Without love we are guaranteed to have no peace.

 

Yet, every day people choose negativity, hate, and anger. Although none of those leads to love or peace, they are a pattern in the world today. Even those who try to give them up, often struggle to keep their focus on love and peace. It is no wonder people struggle as there is so much negative hype in the news media and social media.

 

The Virus & The Media

 

The news media is working overtime with stories on the coronavirus. It is important to inform people about the dangers of this virus and provide updates on the steps that are being taken to combat it. However, often the tone of the stories, and headlines in particular, are alarming.

 

Rather than informing people and keeping people calm, the media and some public figures are actually creating hysteria. There is a big difference between being concerned and taking precautions versus buying 500 rolls of toilet paper and 30 cases of water that you won’t use in the next 3 months.

 

Don’t Panic

 

The first and most important thing you can do for your health is to take a deep breath and relax. Skip the fear given panic and worry will only diminish your quality of life. They are guaranteed NOT to help.

 

Realize that this too will pass. The panic of today will be replaced by sanity and understanding. Doctors and scientists are understanding more about this virus every day. Vaccinations are being developed. After all, although this is “new,” it is in a classification of viruses that are already known. So, it may have unique attributes, but it isn’t completely foreign to doctors.

 

Relax. Skip the fear. Life will go on. It just may not be quite as luxurious as it was a month ago, but it will go on.

 

Energetically Speaking

 

The energy of panic and worry only brings about more panic and worry. The energy that you transmit is the energy that you will draw to you. So, if you emit panic and worry, you will help the virus and the worry to grow for yourself and others.

 

Thus, if you desire peace, calm, and a time of little worry, peace and love are where you need to put your energy. By doing so, you will help the world heal and defeat this virus.

 

Actions You Can Take

 

What can you do? Practice good hygiene, make good decisions about where you go (assuming you have a choice), limit your news intake, ignore fake and exaggerated stories (verify stories and sources before posting on social media or sharing with friends), and be realistic. Do you really think you will use 500 rolls of toilet paper any time soon?

 

If you are exposed to the virus, self-quarantine and follow all the procedures that authorities provide. Even in this case, remain calm. Energetically cleanse yourself. And, keep a good attitude. Just because you may have been exposed, doesn’t mean you will get the virus. If you do get it, remember that a high percentage of the cases are mild (yes, you wouldn’t know that by listening to many of the news stories).

 

Right now the media is constantly beating the coronavirus drum. Remember that fear leads to good ratings and increased online clicks. So, they have an incentive for you to be afraid. Instead of falling into the negative energy of fear, stay calm. Look for the facts. Go to the CDC website and read about it yourself.

 

Rather than focusing your energy on the fear and negativity, focus your energy toward a healthy world. Keeping a laser focus on love, patience, and healing is a step toward feeling at peace!

 

Join us Thursday March 19 for a free online class on Energetic Tips for Staying Healthy.  Click here for more information.