After a recent death in the family, I helped the family clean the house.   As is true in many cases of an unexpected death, time was limited as family members were in town for only a few days.

 

Tossing Things

 

Although time was of the essence, it was difficult to see so many things going into the dumpster. New packages of things that could be used by someone landed in a trash bag. Still, many items discarded were things that couldn’t be sold or donated. So, I took a deep breath as we tossed them in the trash.

 

When it came to small appliances, dishes, and other household items, I volunteered to take them to a donation center so that they wouldn’t simply be thrown away.  I even salvaged a few items as they were going into the trash because I knew they were valuable or usable by others.

 

This experience was a great reminder of the throw-away society that we have become. I cannot imagine the average person 100 years ago throwing away anything usable. Of course, they had less actual things in their homes and had lots of children to divide things between.

 

Picking Up Energy

 

Given that things we have in our homes and touch with our hands pick up our energy, I started wondering what a throw-away society meant to the world energetically. In the days of old, household objects were used until no longer usable. In many cases,  items were passed down from generation to generation. This brought forth the energy of the family to new generations.

 

These items were durable and lasted for years and years. In contrast, many things today are designed only to last for a single use. Even things designed to last longer are rarely designed to last even the entire lifetime of one person. Instead, each of these items are discarded when people are done with them, which can simply mean that they have grown tired of the item or used it a time or two.

 

Losing Energy

 

If we consider that each item picks up a bit of our energy, we must assume that a part of our energy is lost each time an item is discarded. So, instead of our homes being full of the energy of our family and our ancestors as in the past, we now have pockets of emptiness.

 

The solution is simple. Use less one-time use items. Keep select items from our family (you don’t have to keep everything). Lastly,  carefully purchase items with the idea that we will keep them for a long time. By making these changes our homes will have a wealth of energy and the gaps will be fewer. This strength of energy is important in order to fully connect our energy to the world!

 

Coming soon: Part II – “When It No Longer Serves You”

 

 

 

Everyday we ride an emotional roller coaster. We can leave work feeling great because we completed a major project or made a huge sale. The feeling of joy plunges when we become angry because another driver cut us off. Then we reach home and feel so loved when our 2-footed or 4-footed loved ones greet us.

 

The Highs and Lows

 

While riding the emotional roller coaster called life, we often recognize the highs and the lows, but may not think a lot about the physical reaction to these emotions. Like a roller coaster, the physical effects of these emotions can be transient. Our blood pressure increases when we are angry with other drivers. However, it soon returns to normal. In this case, the incident on the roadway results in little or no residual effect on our overall well-being.

 

In some cases, it lasts a bit longer. Stress headaches or muscle strains gained on the ride or that occur as a result of our emotions being jostled about last longer. Perhaps, we feel them for a few hours or a whole day.

 

Linger Affects

 

Sometimes, however, situations can have a lingering effect on us. For example, when we experience strong emotional trauma, such as the loss of a loved one, the emotion can be quite intense and linger with us for a long period of time. Initially, this trauma may or may not have any physical effects on us. Any initial physical effects are likely to be transient – headache, sleeplessness, etc. However, it is the accumulation of the emotion over time that holds the potential to have a greater impact on our health and wellbeing.

 

Underlying negative emotions that linger attack us day in and day out. Often this happens for a long period of time only to be followed by the discovery of a physical aliment. Many times people view this as an independent event and do not connect it to the emotion that they have been harboring. Others have a sudden “Ah ha!” moment and begin to wonder if there is a tie between the their emotion and the manifestation of the physical aliment.

 

Repetitive Emotions

 

Not all physical ailments that manifest from emotion come from traumatic events. People sometimes experience an emotion on a regular basis or hold on to an emotion. If this is a positive emotion, such as love, this is wonderful and very healthy. Unfortunately, it is often anger or another negative emotion. For example, politics, fueled by social media and media outlets, seems to put some people in a constant state of anger. That anger is unhealthy and needs to be released for the person’s own well-being.

 

Changing Our Reactions

 

We can start to change our reactions to negative emotions by being conscious of the connection between our emotions on our physical well-being. Recognition that we no longer need to be at the mercy of these emotions is the first step.

 

The second step is to choose to release our connection to negative emotions. We can begin that process by recognizing that the situation causing these emotions will pass. After all, do we really want to be emotionally invested in something that may physically harm us, This is especially true since the harm often comes after the issue has become less important or is no longer relevant. t

 

Once we make this choice, we can begin to release the emotion. However, releasing the connection to negative emotions is not easy. These negative emotions are the most intense emotions and they linger with us the longest. We also tend to rehash the negative emotions, which reinforces the recall of the situation and has a tendency to intensify the emotions.

 

It is important to see situations that lead to negative emotions for what they are. In some cases, they are traumatic and life changing. However, often we hold onto emotions related to events that aren’t life changing and aren’t really traumatic. We must consciously remind ourselves that it is acceptable and healthy to let go of these negative emotions.

 

Positive Memories Are Healthy

 

Human nature seems to be attuned to looking at the bad. It is a way of survival and seeking answers. Yet, looking for the good in situations or positive memories to replace the bad is very healthy. It isn’t always easy at first; however, it gets easier with practice. In the case of the loss of a loved one, it is far healthier to remember the good times – the laughter, the love – rather than focusing on the loss. By doing so we reinforce the positive emotions and we heal for our future well-being.

 

 

 

The bodies of living creatures are amazing. They are so intricately designed that if they didn’t exist, no mind could conceive of them. The interweaving of systems in the body is an incredible feat. Millions of instructions are processed every second to make a body perform correctly.

 

People take their bodies for granted until something happens that creates pain or diminishes the capability of some part of the body. Then, the person reports that their arm hurts or their back hurts. Sometimes it is that simple. The person strained a single muscle and caring for the muscle resolves the issue.

 

Causes of Pain

 

Many times, however, the issue is more complicated.  The pain or lack of movement that a person experiences may arise from a different location in the body.  Sometimes, it isn’t even  a single issue that causes the problem, but a series of different issues. All of this comes about because the body is complex and functions are intertwined.

 

For instance, pressure on a nerve in the spine can result in shoulder pain.  The issue can have very little to do with the shoulder itself.  It is simply the location the pain manifests. Likewise, pressure on the right place on your foot might be felt in your head or arm. Modalities, such as reflexology and acupuncture, utilize this interconnectivity to relieve pain.

 

Difficult Diagnosis

 

The infinite number of connections in the human body is also the reason that diagnosis and healing are often very challenging. A single symptom can sometimes be one of several for many different ailments. This is why medical history including any falls, accidents, or surgeries is so critical.

 

Still, this information may not be enough to truly understand and heal the issue as the connections go beyond the physical body. For instance, a person who feels they have no reason to live is unlikely to heal.  All the right diagnosis can be made and all the correct treatments can be applied, but healing will not occur. Thus, a person’s emotions and mindset are also very interconnected with the physical interworkings of their body.

 

Complete Healing

 

Given the intricate physical and mental interconnections of human beings, only partial healing, at best, can be achieved when only visible symptoms are addressed. This is why it is essential to address the whole person to create complete healing.

 

 

 

 

As you may have noticed, this year we’ve shifted the focus of our blog posts and re-titled it Connecting. We have chosen this focus because everything in existence involves making connections. Those of you who enjoyed our Pay Attention blog or our Imagine If blog need not worry as both concepts will be found within Connecting.

 

Flavors of Connections

 

Connections come in many flavors.   There are things where the connection is physical and obvious, such as, a fingernail is clearly attached to a finger, the finger to the hand, the hand to the wrist, etc. These connections are observable to the naked eye. A scientist might, however, describe these connections with more precision and in ways that are not visible without special equipment. Those descriptions are also physical. The details are just not obvious to the casual observer.

 

Similarly, there are connections that are emotional, such as, connecting Christmas with family. A particular home or set of activities may be involved, but no physical connection exists. Yet, when you think of Christmas, you might immediately think of being with family.

 

Similarly, you might associate both horses and tractors with transportation. Unless you are talking about a horse drawn carriage, there isn’t a physical connection. My Grandfather might have made an emotional tie between the two because he loved his horses and was heartbroken when they were replaced by motorized equipment. However, most of us make this connection because of something we learned – a mental connection.

 

Lastly, connections can be spiritual.   The power of prayer is an excellent example for those that believe. It can’t be empirically proven, but prayer seems to perform miracles.

 

Connection Game

 

Connections go far deeper and cover many more situations than are initially obvious in the above scenarios. By playing a simple game we play with students to teach creative problem solving, you can begin to see how everything is connected. That game consists of searching for as many connections as you can between two seemingly unrelated objects, ideas, beliefs, etc. For example, how is a dog related to a banana? If you don’t come up with something initially, challenge yourself. We have yet to find any two things without a connection.

 

More The Same Than Different

 

The world today teaches people to see the differences, yet things are more connected than they are different. If you look at two different people, for example, they may look very different based on gender, race, height, etc.; however, humans share more than 99.9% of the same DNA. So, there is biological connectivity between all human beings that goes far deeper than physical characteristics.

 

What about our beliefs? Although most the time you wouldn’t know it, there is a significant amount of connectivity in our personal, political, and religious ideologies. For instance, most people believe in the concept of family. Now, some believe in monogamy while others believe in plural marriage. Still, at the core is the idea of family. Likewise, most religions believe in a higher power or universal power giving life to the idea that there is something more.

 

And, lastly we arrive at the dreaded politics. No matter your political views it is guaranteed that there are people with your general set of beliefs that are truly working toward what they believe to be the good of the people and the good of the country. It is equally true that there are others who are working toward their own power and not the good of anyone else. Those working for good may disagree on how to achieve the goals, but they share more goals than most people realize. The challenge is to find the connections and focus on them instead of focusing on the disagreements.

 

Pay Attention

 

As you can see in these few examples, everything in life involves connections. Those connections range from the obvious to the overlooked to the ones that you really need to think about and consider. Once you are paying attention and open to seeing connections, they will start jumping out at you from every angle. You might even start imaging what life would be like if we focused on the commonality and connections instead the differences.

 

Read our new blogs post each Tuesday and Friday to get a glimpse into some of the connections that we see around us!

 

 

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